7 traits YOU's Joe Goldberg shares with toxic Arab boyfriends

Throughout the series, Goldberg attempts to distance his love interests from their loved ones, such as Guinevere Beck's friend Peach Salinger and Love Quinn's brother Forty. Goldberg falsely believes being in a relationship with a woman means entitlement to her undivided attention at all times and qualifies him to become the sole important figure in her life.

Likewise, an Arab man may tend to low-key isolate his partner from her friends and family because he wants her all for himself. He makes her feel guilty for hanging out with her friends or doing some activity on her own while he is free and generally tries to control how she spends her time and whom she spends it with. 

*Warning: Spoiler Alert! 

Towards the end of the second season, we see Goldberg lose interest in Love Quinn, with whom he had been infatuated all season, after finding out she has similar obsessive, homicidal tendencies as himself. Goldberg thoroughly justifies his wrongdoings and constantly tries to validate them, yet he does not extend the same courtesy to Quinn and is quick to judge and condemn her.

The same hypocrisy and double standards are common among many Arab men who chastise their partners for the same things they are guilty of. For example, such men expect their partners to have no sexual history and slut-shame women who do, despite these men having anything but clean slates in their pasts. Similarly, such men police every aspect of their partners' lives but take offense when their own lives are meddled into.

If you've been unfortunate enough to have dealt with narcissists like Goldberg, you are probably aware of their tendency to play the victim and manipulate the narrative. 

Similarly, thanks to their massive egos, some Arab men only see things from their own narcissistic lenses and are quick to victimize themselves, rather than admit their flaws and mistakes. They project their insecurities in an unhealthy manner, going above and beyond to assert that there's a cosmic plan rooting against them. They constantly justify their actions through a rationale that is pretty flawed but alarmingly convincing.

Goldberg - along with many Arab men - has a distorted image of what being a partner entails. He treats his significant other as a damsel in distress who requires constant guidance and protection. He appoints himself as her guardian, undermines her maturity and autonomy, and feels emboldened to take matters into his own hands without consulting with her first. Fragile masculinity, much? 

"She's single and doesn't want to go out with me... then, she must be playing hard to get." This is what goes on in many Arab guys' heads whenever they are turned down by a woman because her being simply not interested is out of the question. 

Goldberg exhibits the same inability to handle rejection and is quick to get clingy and fanatic at the first signs of dismissal.

When things get tough, even remotely, Goldberg doesn't mind getting his hands bloodied under the pretext of love.

Along similar lines, some Arab men would get into violent fights for the sake of "protecting" their partners, often triggered by petty reasons stemming from jealousy and insecurity. In more severe cases, a small portion of Arab men are willing to commit murder in the name of protecting the so-called "honor" of the women in their lives. Yep, machismo is alive and well, both on Netflix and in the Arab world. 

Goldberg rationalizes his worst deeds by claiming he did them all out of love. Along similar, yet less intense lines, Arab men justify their toxic traits by claiming it's "their own way" of expressing love. 

The reality is that some toxic relationship habits have become so normalized in our communities that many women believe they simply have to put up with their controlling partners. 

These habits and attributes might not seem as severe and detrimental as Goldberg's, but the small red flags are definitely worth pausing at and contemplating about.