If you’re currently in college, recently graduated or perhaps not so recently graduated, and you live in the Middle East, chances are good that you still live with your parents.
The struggle can indeed seem too real when you’re trying to figure out how to be an adult under the same roof your mom taught you how to walk. Especially after a taste of independence.
But this situation doesn’t have to be the end of the world. As a resident of the first category, I have learned a few things to make the experience not only bearable, but enjoyable as well.
1. Make your room your creative haven.
Your room is your ultimate personal space, so make it the best possible manifestation of what makes you comfortable and happy. Try playing your favorite music on a regular basis or decorate your walls with your favorite colors. Whether it’s reading, playing the guitar or painting, create a special corner for practicing your favorite hobby. The goal is that when you enter your room, you find yourself in your own place, not just an extension of your parents’ house.
2. Make your own decisions.
Feel confident in your ability to make your own decisions and correct your own mistakes. Don’t tell them that you’re an adult, show them.
3. Don’t isolate yourself for "independence."
Don’t lock yourself in your room and declare independence, spending all your time with your friends. Make time for your parents; include them in your daily conversation. They are not the enemy.
4. Don’t use power plays, compromise instead.
Compromise is key to any successful relationship, including your relationship your parents. When it comes to curfews and housework, try to reach agreements that are mutually beneficial.
5. Communicate to get what you want.
Screaming and shouting doesn’t work. Communicate your messages effectively through reasonable and calm discussions.
6. Don’t pick a fight over everything.
It’s OK to miss that friend’s birthday party to spend time with the family, and it’s OK to listen to your father’s extremely long speech about what you should or should not do. Let the little things go.
7. Gain some perspective.
Living with your parents isn’t as bad as you might think. Appreciate the fact that you always have delicious home-cooked meals and fresh laundry waiting for you. Admit it: Nothing tastes better than mom’s food.